Every relationship is a continuous learning process.
Reply I guess this is less of a comment and more of a question for advice. I have been seperated now for almost 6 months, although I have been both emotionally and physically removed from my marriage for almost a decade. I sat across from a woman who turned my dormant heart and soul flowing again and I simply can't explain in words the feeling - it was something I almost didn't recognize having been so long.
I was..one of those guys who simply did not want to date. I had no idea she was divorced - she had no idea that I was getting a divorce. But we were never both "available" for either of us to act on our feelings. I guess in a way, we are going to take things slow but i really don't want to mess things up.
I can’t tell you the number of guys I talk to who when asked why they got divorced roll their eyes and then just start complaining about what a huge bit** their ex is. Jason is right that you need a “story.” Not a lie, just a polite couple of sentences that basically let people know you are moving on, that you aren’t playing the victim.
I also want to comment on #4, “Take it slow,” because I think Jason is dead on with this one.
Jason Price is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Co-Director of Affiliates in Counseling, who has expertise working with couples during times of crisis.
Whether it is the decision to stay together or divorce, dealing with extramarital affairs or other areas of conflict, he has had success helping couples identify the underlying problems in their relationship and develop a healthy life together.The longer you are with someone, you come to learn of their extended needs; or the needs that you never knew they had.If you’re in a relationship you can simply move on to the next candidate, but if you’re married; it’s just not that simple.By the time most men divorce they have felt beaten up by their spouse, their kids, and the court process. Their views on love and relationships may be shattered.To combat this, most men would be best served creating a narrative that puts a positive spin on things.Most divorced men immediately start dating a new woman to forget the bad memories of the previous relationship.