Late last month, Ok Cupid announced a fairly fundamental change to its dating service: the company would no longer allow users to see visitors to their profile.And as of today, that change has been implemented across both Ok Cupid’s website and smartphone apps.
My friend Erin, a 30-something designer in Brooklyn, thinks it’s a better way to go overall.
“I frequently would not even look at someone's profile after they sent me a message unless I thought I was really gonna like them because they'd see that I did,” she told me. She followed that up by saying “The only weird thing is that one guy who checked my profile like dozens of times a day, and now I can't keep tabs on how much he's creeping on me.
And just today, Ok Cupid introduced what it’s calling a “Member Pledge” that users must agree to before sending messages with the app or website.
Members of the service “must first agree not to send any harassing or unwanted, sexually explicit messages” before engaging with other people. “If you wouldn’t say something to a person you just met at a bar, you shouldn’t be saying it online,” said company CEO Elie Seidman.
“I asked him if he wanted to hang out, and he said yes,” Mr. The two have continued seeing each other since, spending Thanksgiving together and attending a wedding as each other’s dates.
Anthea Fisher, 22, a project manager in finance, began a relationship on Instagram with someone she had known peripherally.
In the end, a willingness to share those feelings is what creates a happy and secure relationship.
No amount of money, influence, power or education can give you that.
“Without the distraction of visitors, you can now focus on the people who like what they see on your profile and really want to get to know you,” the company reasoned.
“And when you’re focused on those people, your chances of higher quality connections improves.” But almost immediately, Ok Cupid ran into negative feedback from both free and paying customers.
To understand why some people are upset with this decision, let’s conduct a quick refresher on how Ok Cupid works: And so that brings us to the revised approach.