According to Mason, you should treat dating as you would when looking for an employee or job. If you’re only after casual dating, for example, you might write: “I'm into kindness, fun times and culture, not to be mistaken with KFC.
And the first step in the recruitment process is creating an advert for your vacancy: “The more specific you are in your 'advert' the more likely you will get someone who are looking for,” she says. Although a cheeky chicken after a night out with my mates wouldn't go amiss.
Trust me, most guys don’t find this impressive until at least several months in. Crystal Crowder Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger.
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As if dating isn’t enough of a pain in the ass, starting a new relationship is even worse. I know I’m supposed to impress them too, but I’m still busy getting to know him. The moment I’m finally his girlfriend, I’m swamped with doubts and fears. I know what I’m hiding and I’d like to just get all his flaws and secrets out now versus waiting. I guess everyone thinks it’s not going to last, so they need to meet him from the moment I say I have a boyfriend. This early on, they could very well ruin the relationship. I’d love to relax and just see how things go, but no, I’m supposed to know during the first month or two what our future looks like. I don’t know if we have long term potential or how many kids we might want. There are just some things I don’t trust him enough to talk about yet.
Mason has been practising what she preaches though, and this month, the relationship expert got engaged - after just four months of dating.
“Normally dating experts find the love of their lives and then tell everyone how they did it,” she admitted. I feel like a prized show dog being paraded in front of the judges. It’s like we’re constantly studying and analyzing one another. Since we’re trying to be our best selves, I’m more curious than ever to know what he’s hiding. We might be together, but we’re still working on that initial trust. I think I’d rather just write up a book report of my highs, lows and need to know topics and get it all over with at one time. It seems like things start to taper off and I feel confident in the relationship by the fourth month. Those first several months are the major “getting to know you” period.And damn if some people aren’t complete douchebags. Since these first months are so crucial, I have to spend more time with him.Here’s why those first three months are so hard: It all seems so fake. You have this probation period where if you’re not good enough, you get let go without any real explanation.