He says to God, "The woman you sent me gave it to me and I ate it." I couldn't believe it.
If you make a mistake, take responsibility for your actions. " A man has to look at himself and see how he can change his own actions to properly handle similar situations.
When she asks for input on a decision, he says, "It's up to you." He wants to be nice but he doesn't realize he's frustrating her. Like a lot of men these days, I received so many messages on what a man in a relationship should be, I was bewildered. If a man works on himself and develops himself to be worthy, the woman will be his partner. What happens next in the world's first relationship? They have one commandment: Don't eat the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. You're not responsible for what happened." Just the opposite.Every few years, the media tells us new ideas about what a man should be. He punishes Adam for eating the fruit, and for not using his own judgment.He who can control his passions (Ethics of the Fathers, 4:1).Someone who can control his anger is better than a physically strong man who can conquer a city.Some men avoid taking the lead because they don't want to be criticized. A man should say, "I'll handle it," and take the initiative to find solutions.
If he's not sure what the solution is, do what other leaders do -- consult the many sources of information available.People admire those who step forward to handle difficult situations.We don't admire those who stand back and wait for others to solve the problem.With so many confusing ideas, I started looking for wisdom on what a man should be in a relationship. Don't do things you know are wrong and then blame others. He gave in to something he knew was wrong and then he blamed his wife. Does blaming his wife help Adam avoid responsibility?For a while there was "sensitive new age guy." Then there was "metrosexual" and advice that men need to develop their feminine side. I looked in the commentary at the bottom of the page which quoted the Talmud, "If the man is worthy, the woman will be his helper; if he is not worthy, she will be against him." This one sentence changed the way I looked at relationships. I think it's significant that one of the first lessons in the first chapter of Genesis is about what a man should be in a relationship.